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Speaking God's love language

In the study guide for Chapter 4, it asks me to read Jeremiah 31:33-35. I'm not sure exactly what I am looking for when I read this scripture. It’s the section that asks me to write how I can make myself more vulnerable, personal and accessible to God.

Robin's Response

Sometimes, I am so concerned with whether God seems to be showing me love that I forget that I need to learn to speak his love language as well. This scripture is a very vulnerable plea on God's part for a relationship with us — the same God who commands the sun to shine by day, the moon and stars to shine by night, and the waves to roar. (Isn’t it amazing that a God who is so unfathomably powerful, is also unfathomably personal!)

If I were to rewrite this scripture as if it were just written just for me, it might say:

"Robin, I want to make a covenant with you. I want to put my instructions in your mind, and write them on your heart, deep within you, so that we are linked heart to heart. I will be your God and you will be my daughter. You won't need to be taught about me because you will know me already. And you’ll walk securely with me, because I will forgive you and won't even remember any of your sins against me."

How does God want to be loved? In a very intimate, heartfelt, personal and secure relationship. I guess you could say that's his love language (and also the kind of love he extends to you and me).

So how can I respond? Here are a few ideas:
Be more vulnerable – Let him in to the deep places of my heart. Trust him with my weaknesses, as well as with my strengths. Continually invite him in, not just when I have the place cleaned up!

Be more personal – Realize that everything about my relationship with God is personal. Treat him like he's close by instead of far off. (Like today, after spending hours feeling kind of anxious, I finally got on my knees by my computer and entrusted my fears and anxieties to him. After I prayed, he led me straight to a phone number I needed to resolve a situation I was concerned about—and expression of his personal love.) Taking his word personally, and believing that he applies his word in a very personal way to whatever I'm going through.
Be more accessible – Plan times to go be in the presence of God. Spend time with him where I am still enough, for long enough, that he can communicate to me through his word.


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